Leonard Pitts is explaining how people can be control freaks.We would love to have everything our way if we could. We continually try to control every asppect of our lives no matter the cost or the risk. Our compulsive behavior is the reason for life the way it is today. We want every thing perfect. But he said stuff still happens thats life. Having everything to our satisfication is not promised to us when we enter this world.
To my knowledge no one is promised a perfect life. Each and everyday we get situations that seem surprising to our agenda. We can't always have it our way. Anyone who thinks that has not fully experienced life. People try everything in their will to control their lives how they want them to be but are never successful in doing so. These are the type of people who in the end find it difficult to live a happy life because they can't have authority over everything.
If i could control my life the i intended it to be then i would not be at CCRI right now. If anyone had complete control over their lives then their would be no order. Everyone would be out of control. When we try to take self control then our lives become out of control. Because we have no one telling us what is right from wrong. So therefore your not really learning anything about reality except what you find pleasure in. That's the issue with us today we don't want anybody invading on our lives. We are selfish,arrogant,and too proud to say tha we are wrong. I'll admit even i can get like this. Without any discipline or correction we fail to acknowledge who we are and what life is really about.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Good Grammer Gets The Girl BY: Elissa Englund
Elissa a Michigan State University Alumni had joined an online dating service searching for her significant other. One invivdual she had an encounter over the internet with was not so successful in his attempt to charm. His screen name was Craig and he had a very poor choice of vocabulary. He had multiple spelling errors and inncorrect usage of grammer in his sentences. Elissa was not turned on by his words so she had deny Craig. Craig on the other hand might of been indenial, but a man's words go a long way with a women. So to help a guy out Elissa gave out her vovcab strategy to help all those lame game fellas for a success with the ladies. She said to go over every you have written before submitting the messages. Then go back and correct the errors like mispelled words,puncuation marks,etc.This is very imperative because one small mistake can lead to a denial. This strategy she believes will help keep the juices flowing for the guys.what Elissa is saying is that looks don't mean anything without any word play.
As for me i have no problems in this area. In my dialect i speak very eloquently, but just enough to let her know i have a high vovcab. I can be poetic and political at the same time. It's even better when you have a sense of humor and i happen to be very humurous. It can be boring when a guy is too serious, but what i also notice that women don't like guys who are too humurous. There are times when i got alittle discouraged in a conversation with a female because all i kept thinking about is the facial expressions she was making when we were talking. Some females can be challenging like that, but i managed fairly well through the time we had. That was when i was in my early teens. Now i am more confident, but not arrogant and do a lot better than most guys in their 30's and 40's.
Listen. Take my advice.It is better to be yorself than try to do what your friend does when approachin a female. What worked for your friend might not work for you. That's the problem with guys today they all use the same lines or get pick up lines from a book or off the internet. How pathetic is that! They have reality shows on T.V. where guys pay antother guy to help them with pick up lines while their on the date. What that tells me is that you did not really earn the girl , but the guy you took advice from did. Use your own knowledge. If it's not meant for you to have that female then they're plenty more in the universe to go around. The bucket doesn't stop there. Someone will be turned on by you. If she can't except you for who you are then it ain't ment to be. So many guys put themeselves through changes for someone who doesn't care about them. It ain't worth it. Just be you, but be confident about being you. Don't let one bad date stop you because if one door closes surely another one will open.
As for me i have no problems in this area. In my dialect i speak very eloquently, but just enough to let her know i have a high vovcab. I can be poetic and political at the same time. It's even better when you have a sense of humor and i happen to be very humurous. It can be boring when a guy is too serious, but what i also notice that women don't like guys who are too humurous. There are times when i got alittle discouraged in a conversation with a female because all i kept thinking about is the facial expressions she was making when we were talking. Some females can be challenging like that, but i managed fairly well through the time we had. That was when i was in my early teens. Now i am more confident, but not arrogant and do a lot better than most guys in their 30's and 40's.
Listen. Take my advice.It is better to be yorself than try to do what your friend does when approachin a female. What worked for your friend might not work for you. That's the problem with guys today they all use the same lines or get pick up lines from a book or off the internet. How pathetic is that! They have reality shows on T.V. where guys pay antother guy to help them with pick up lines while their on the date. What that tells me is that you did not really earn the girl , but the guy you took advice from did. Use your own knowledge. If it's not meant for you to have that female then they're plenty more in the universe to go around. The bucket doesn't stop there. Someone will be turned on by you. If she can't except you for who you are then it ain't ment to be. So many guys put themeselves through changes for someone who doesn't care about them. It ain't worth it. Just be you, but be confident about being you. Don't let one bad date stop you because if one door closes surely another one will open.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Only Daughter
The insight i got from this article was that Maria was the only daughter in a home of six boys born to a Mexican family in Chiago. Being the only girl her brothers were reluctnat to play with her they thought it would bring down their masculant reputation if they hung out with their little sister. She wanted to win the attention of all the males in her house mostly importnatly her fathers. Her father had an impact on her life as a kid. Maria knew her physically aspects could not gain the attention of her dad so she saught out another way to please him. She went to College graduated and had a major in English. Their she found a passion for writing and decided to become a journalist. Marias dad always told his children to use their brains and not their hands. So Maria did what he commanded from her as a women. She was to go to College and find a husband. Although she did not find a husband she found love in a paper in pencil. All Maria wanted to do was please her father so one day at a family gathering she wrote something about her dad. After all the years of not finding something to satisfiy her father with she finally did so with a writing untencil and paper. Her father could not stop laughing.
Sometimes satisfy the ones who mean the most to you could take a lifetime sacrifice of spending your time and talents to please them. It hurts when you feel like the ones you love neglect you because of your gender or physical aspects, or mental aspects, or whatever the case may be. We even get shattered like glass in our win their favor. Does that necessarily mean they don't love us? No. Of course not. However even though they might not show gratitude towards you trying to please them inside they are pleased.
You can win my apporval if you are a good cook. That's how people win my approval. Also if yor have a sense of humor to go with it then your in good hands with me.
Doing what makes you happy is easy, but try doing it for someone else you'll find much complication through the attempts,but he who endures through them all will see results.
Sometimes satisfy the ones who mean the most to you could take a lifetime sacrifice of spending your time and talents to please them. It hurts when you feel like the ones you love neglect you because of your gender or physical aspects, or mental aspects, or whatever the case may be. We even get shattered like glass in our win their favor. Does that necessarily mean they don't love us? No. Of course not. However even though they might not show gratitude towards you trying to please them inside they are pleased.
You can win my apporval if you are a good cook. That's how people win my approval. Also if yor have a sense of humor to go with it then your in good hands with me.
Doing what makes you happy is easy, but try doing it for someone else you'll find much complication through the attempts,but he who endures through them all will see results.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
A Brother's Murder by: Brent Staples
Brent Staples a journalist and college grad from Chiacago talks about his past and how the fear he had for his brothers life led into a tragic loss. In the begging he explains about the death of his brother a dipsute between his brother Blake the age or twenty-two and a close friend of Blake's how a conflict over a female emerged from a share of unfreindly commets,gestrues,violence then the ultiamte death. His brother was the age of twenty- two when he lost his due to fatal gun shots wounds he was unable to recover from. The Staple brothers grew up in a Pre dominatley African American city(Chester,Pennsylvania) full or povery and violence. He explains the tragic losses of close friends due to perversity and corrpution of drugs,gangs,and all sorts or malicious activity overwhelming the low income neighborhoods. He later in life fled his home town and became a college graduate to defeat being a street satistic back home. On a voyage two Roanoke,Virginia where his brother Blake lived he felt fearful of the lifestyle his brother choose. So instead of criticizing his baby cibling he encouraged him to leave where he resides and go on a journey with his older brother. Unfortuantley the plan was not so succesful.Brent got a call the next day and was not a pleasent one.
This story I can relate to because i grew up in an environement of poverty,drugs,and violence. The toughest decision to make was staying away from it all. It was very easy to fall victim to this lifestyle and so many teens and young adults fall victim to it everyday. I will be honest I had my encounters with fights,drugs and malicious acts. For a while i saw it as a form of respect being the person i was. What i did not realize was that I was my own worst enemy. The choice was mine either stay in this way of life or be strong and come from among it. God gave me strength to say no to it all and that is why I'm here today.
It is very hard for most people to leave it alone beacause they are blinded by what they are surronded by. What most people don't realize is that you can become deeply involved in a criminal lifestyle and not frind your way out of it.Those who live the life of a crimial do not perceive themselves as a failure.Their perception of themselves is that they are in control of who they are and can't no body tell them different.A sense of pride is what it's called.They're living a lie. They want to be accepted by those the neigborhood fears ethier that or they fear if they don't unite with the bad people then they will become victimized themselves. Remaining in it is easy but leaving it alone can cause enimies. I say this because when people see you doing good then they envy that because they are not doing it so they want to lure you in their way of life and thinking.
Situations such as these happen all the time in everyday life.You always got two kids who live in the same household but grow up to have two completely different lifestyles. Some people would not understand why two children who have the same upbringing go in two opposite directions? Where did the legal guardian go wrong with the one child who is rebellious and unmanigable. I say this if they are both human then they have two differnt ways of thinking and personalities. Its the individuals way of percepiton of how they see life. Me i might see life one way but my brother will see it antoher way. We just are two differnt people. We have chioces. We were given choices on how we want to live our lives.
This story I can relate to because i grew up in an environement of poverty,drugs,and violence. The toughest decision to make was staying away from it all. It was very easy to fall victim to this lifestyle and so many teens and young adults fall victim to it everyday. I will be honest I had my encounters with fights,drugs and malicious acts. For a while i saw it as a form of respect being the person i was. What i did not realize was that I was my own worst enemy. The choice was mine either stay in this way of life or be strong and come from among it. God gave me strength to say no to it all and that is why I'm here today.
It is very hard for most people to leave it alone beacause they are blinded by what they are surronded by. What most people don't realize is that you can become deeply involved in a criminal lifestyle and not frind your way out of it.Those who live the life of a crimial do not perceive themselves as a failure.Their perception of themselves is that they are in control of who they are and can't no body tell them different.A sense of pride is what it's called.They're living a lie. They want to be accepted by those the neigborhood fears ethier that or they fear if they don't unite with the bad people then they will become victimized themselves. Remaining in it is easy but leaving it alone can cause enimies. I say this because when people see you doing good then they envy that because they are not doing it so they want to lure you in their way of life and thinking.
Situations such as these happen all the time in everyday life.You always got two kids who live in the same household but grow up to have two completely different lifestyles. Some people would not understand why two children who have the same upbringing go in two opposite directions? Where did the legal guardian go wrong with the one child who is rebellious and unmanigable. I say this if they are both human then they have two differnt ways of thinking and personalities. Its the individuals way of percepiton of how they see life. Me i might see life one way but my brother will see it antoher way. We just are two differnt people. We have chioces. We were given choices on how we want to live our lives.
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